Choosing when to have sex with a new partner can be a very stressful decision. It can be your first date, second date or your wedding night. Everybody’s different and there’s no crystal-clear formula to any of that… Or is there?

You may have already heard about the “three date rule.” Basically, it’s exactly what it sounds like – the 3rd date is pretty much the optimal time to get it on. We’re not going to say that this is a concrete rule and you should stick to it no matter what, but it’s a good starting point nevertheless.

There are all kinds of women and there are all kinds of different situations. For example, if you met a girl via some single women for dating website or something along the lines, you may end up getting intimate on the 1st or 2nd date due to you guys building up a good rapport during your online communication. Another example would be dating a Slavic woman – they either hit the ground running (1st date) or wait for the perfect moment (3rd date/wedding night).

With all of that being said, waiting just a bit longer may not be all that bad. If you did not get physical during the 3rd or God forbid 4th date, there’s no reason to worry. Women (and most men, too) generally wait until the trust is there so they could communicate their needs and wishes better. In other words, if you wait longer, you’ll get a partner that is not afraid to bring up all the kinky stuff that she or he is into. Obviously, trusting each other more means better sex, there’s not a single doubt about it.

Of course, there are situations when people end up having sex on their first night together and that leads to a beautiful relationship down the line. The question that you should ask yourself is what makes YOU comfortable. Also – you shouldn’t make snap judgments when it comes to other people. Everybody’s brain is wired in a different way, so you just let the person go at their own pace.

Do not forget to talk openly about your expectations if you feel like it’s preventing your relationship from moving to the next stage. Be frank about it, but don’t get pushy. Establishing an open line of communications right from the get-go can get you a long way.

Hopefully, this will help you better understand your future partner. Best of luck!